Today, like all previous Sunday blogs I had no topic or plan
to blog. The topics come as divine inspiration,
and then I write. It is the same with my
song writing-it’s a timing thing.
While reading through the Facebook News Feed this morning; I saw a story
about a father who threw his baby into a creek, killing her. Lord have mercy! We hear about these stories all too often. I always think, if only kids could pick their
parents! Compelled to leave a comment I
chimed in with, “Self-hate is evil's
handiwork” and it really got me thinking.
Our lives are a reflection of what we believe about ourselves.
Angry people frequently lash out not at those who have
inflicted their root pain but often on a un-suspecting stranger or in this case
an innocent child. Be it on a conscious
or on a sub-conscious level, our attributes and actions are rooted in our
beliefs (right or wrong) about ourselves.
Those actions then set us on a course to fulfill our beliefs. Everyone and everything on our journey is affected
by our beliefs.
Let’s
say I believe/fear that I won’t get my ideal mate; then unintentionally I sabotage
myself, behaving in ways that won’t be attractive to my ideal mate. I then attract a non-ideal mate; proving my
beliefs right. Keep in mind the
non-ideal mate’s beliefs are also at work here.
For he knows that an insecure mate is someone he can conquer. If my ideal mate is a strong, caring, well
groomed, God loving man then why would I settle for a good looking disrespectful,
angry, selfish man? Here’s how. It’s because I've given up or don’t believe I am worthy of
attracting the man I really want , so I settle. My non-ideal mate and his ideal
mate attract one another and our dis-function begins.
As an early observer of behavior and relationships, I started asking myself,
what kind of
person do you want to be? What kind of life do you really want? What kind of
health do you really want? What kind of
love do you really want? This forced me
to be very honest with myself. It is when
I am able to be completely honest with myself and give myself permission to
believe that I can have those things I really want, that what I attract into my life and my trajectory shifts. It’s how I navigate my journey.
Learning to say no to those things and people that did
not factor into the life I wanted was the biggest challenge; as it is for many
of us. Operating outside the status quo is
a lifestyle we must learn to be comfortable in.
Sure even now I still have people making comments about my being a
non-drinker. It’s only because others
see the contrast between you and them; it’s not about you but it’s about them
and the self or life they may have long ago abandoned. Sometimes that contrast between us and others
can inspire all of us to re-visit the what kind of life do I want questions.
So, if you want to have successful lives and relationships;
don’t be afraid to say no, do not settle; be very selective with whom you spend
time and share yourself with, go into business with and especially who you procreate with. Heed the signs-they present themselves for a
reason. Chose wisely, the bi-product of our
co-creations impacts not only our lives but state of our society.
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Live on purpose,
Siloam
SiloamPool is a singer/song writer from Detroit, MI
visit: www.SiloamPool.com
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