How to Heal: Before, During & After Loss

This week several of my Facebook friends were hurting and reached out asking for prayer and encouragement. They had loved ones in the hospital or who had passed away. My heart wept for them; because I understood how they felt, what they were going through. So this morning I felt compelled to share something, I hope will help you when faced with this facet of life.

A few years ago my big sister Pat lay in her hospital bed fighting the good fight after her lung transplant.

We are very close family and promised her we would be with her every step of the way; she wouldn’t take the journey alone. Pat a gentle, strong, always thinking of others spirit fought a courageous battle. She never complained, not once!

During her hospital stay, Pat once asked me are you writing? My reply was no, I couldn’t write. I confess during that time my heart was just so broken and I didn’t want to write a bunch of sad songs. You see this was our families second go round with a loved one fighting the effects of Sarcoidosis. CeCe had passed away a few years prior to Pat’s transplant. So for all us this was an excruciatingly painful time but we had to be courageous for Pat.

What was the source of our strength; especially our Mom (our warrior) what was helping us make it through? It is our deeply rooted faith in God. He has always shown his amazing love and care of our family. So although we were grieved, knew not the how’s and the when’s we knew everything would work out. That’s how it’s always been and this was no different.

Fast forward, Pat passed away and three years later so did Mom. It’s been tough moving on without my Mom and Sisters. For a long time it seemed as if grief had un-invitingly moved in, pulled up a chair, put its feet up, had its mouth wide open and was trying to swallow me whole! I’m still adjusting to this new normal, which is still very weird but Mom, Pat and CeCe would want me to continue doing the things we talked about. Moving on has been with much prayer, faith, time and the love of God, friends and family.

So, like my Facebook friends did this week, reach out to those around you; ask for help, prayer, and encouragement and give yourself time to process. But most of all reach up, God is the ultimate comfort.


Love & PEACE,
Siloam


SiloamPool is a Singer/Songwriter from Detroit, MI. Learn more on: www.SiloamPool.com